Oh boy, not much frustrates me more than when I hear someone say “I don’t do that thing because I’m OLD.” And I hear it more often than I’d like. You can fill in the blank with things like “email” “get a new smart phone” “learn a new skill” “run a marathon” “write a book” etc. etc. but the message is the same: “I think I’m too old to learn to do a new thing.”
Well, I’m here to debunk that attitude. In this episode, I’ll share from a list of people who became famous or tried something new or conquered a new milestone after age 40. One even said, “my 90’s were the most productive years of my life.” (It’s my goal to be able to say that one day, by the way…) This is by no means an exhaustive list, but if it helps to make you think about trying something new, then my mission is accomplished. In addition to these more well-known people, we all know someone older who ignores their age and does interesting things anyway, and we secretly admire them.
So let’s lose that self-imposed roadblock and try new things, shall we?
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In this episode, I’m gonna share something personal, but oh so important. Listen to a piece I wrote 10 years ago as my mom was in her last hours of life. I still think it’s the best way to honor her now, ten years later.
I hope it touches you, and makes you think.
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Have a wonderful Holiday Season!
P.S. Here’s the text of
Walking Mom Home by Tami Romani 12/21/09
This is hard. This business of watching someone die. Really, really HARD. But as
with all things that are hard, it has had its joys, as well. Right now I suppose I can’t
think of any, but I am sure they are there. My dad went quickly, just over two
months ago. We barely said good‐bye. Now it’s mom’s turn, and the good‐byes
seem endless. It’s a paradox, really. You want it to be over, but you never want it to
be over, for that means your beloved mom is gone. But I promised myself I would
walk my mom Home, and, along with my brother and sister and my husband, that is
what I’m doing.
Sitting for days watching the natural progression of death, or THE PROCESS as we
have come to know and hate the phrase, causes a person to evaluate life at its most
basic level. What will my children be saying to me and about me when faced with
this same scenario?
Actually, that was the easy part. And possibly the joyous part, as well. Aside from
some silly quirks that we loved to tease her about, my mom was darn near perfect.
I’m not kidding. This woman, born on a farm in the midst of a great flu epidemic,
was tough as nails. A self‐described tomboy, she grew up in a family of 5 girls, and 3
boys. Her dad nicknamed her “Johnny.” Always joyful, smiling, and full of life, she
had great stories, and what a storyteller she was!
And yet, she was an enigma. By the time I came along she was 40 and had lived
nearly half her life. She was polished, educated, and well versed in her parenting
and pastoring skills. She always said I was a compliant child, so I guess that didn’t
hurt, but she had this way about her that just made me want to please her. Spanking
wasn’t necessary – it was THE LOOK that made me want to do the right thing, and
never disappoint this amazing Woman of God. I wouldn’t be truthful if I said I
actually accomplished that….. But that’s another story.
Yes, I was the youngest daughter of a lady preacher. It made for an interesting life,
to say the least. She was a tell‐it‐like it is, no‐nonsense person who continually
believed in her children and their greatness. Some of the most important lessons
and biblical truths I learned were from watching my mom.
There was the time a man came to the door, asking for a handout. We lived in the house next to the church, and everyone knew it. I stood back as I watched her tell the man to sit on the front step while she went to the kitchen and made a sandwich. Bringing it to him with a drink, she shared Jesus’ love in a tangible way and he was grateful. When I asked her why she didn’t give the man a couple of bucks and send him on his way, she told me the Bible says that we could be entertaining angels, unaware, and proceeded to tell me a story from her childhood during the great depression. One of her most vivid memories of God’s provision was when her family sat down to eat at a table with no food. After saying grace, there was a knock. The man at the door said he was from a new bakery in town and they were delivering bread samples to the local families. That night, the large family gave thanks for a generous businessman. Upon asking around the next day, though, they could find no one who knew of this bakery. It didn’t exist. So, the family story has always been that an angel brought the loaves of bread that night. For the rest of her life, she never wavered in her belief that God would always provide what they needed. And He always did.
Being the daughter of a lady preacher in the 60’s and 70’s gave me a sense that I was
part of the Women’s Movement long before it became the mainstream. I could do
anything. There was no boundary that would hold me back from what I wanted to
do because my mom had blasted through the ultimate glass ceiling. She was a
woman doing the work of a Man of God. And she did it well. Her sermons were
compelling, her counseling wise and her prophesies accurate. At home she was just
“mom” to us and “Mrs. J” to my brother’s buddies, but to the rest of the world she
was a force to be reckoned with.
The authority with which mom prayed and preached was not lost on me, even as a
young girl. Without saying a word, she taught me about spiritual warfare and the
dire consequences of taking it lightly. It seemed that the enemy was constantly on
the attack, and she handled each one with a firm grace that defied what must have
been going on inside of her. I knew, without her ever telling me, that if her bedroom
door was closed, she was in prayer. And not the sit on the edge of your bed God
Bless Yous, either. She was in the fervent, groaning in the spirit kind of prayer that
turns God’s ear a little bit closer.
Her favorite saying was, “But God!” When things looked hopeless and bleak, she
would say, “But God!” When she would write in her journal about the destruction in
the church brought by people with jealous spirits, she would write, “But God!” When
she was discouraged about family members she had prayed for without an answer,
she would say, “But God!” Her faith and confidence never waivered. Ever.
So I guess walking my mom Home really started when we began our walk through
life together. I have gleaned 50 years of experience and knowledge from her. Some
I have used already, most I suppose I have yet to draw from. But now, in these final
moments of her life they come crashing through my brain like a flash flood. It is
almost overwhelming, the legacy she leaves me. I only hope I can do the same for
my own children.
Copyright Tami Romani 12/21/09 *All Rights Reserved*
In today’s episode, my guest Keenya Kelly lays out the strategy for preparing to quit your job as you launch into the deep waters of entrepreneurship. Are you ready to quit your job?
Before You Quit Your Job: A Strategic Guide for Entrepreneurs was written with you in mind. Keenya says she has seen too many people quit their job too soon, and end up losing everything – including their dream of entrepreneurship.
Through her own experience, Keenya shares the most important steps to take to make sure you position yourself for success, even if your new business flounders at first. She stresses the importance of having a job to take care of your daily needs, a dream to work towards, and a hustle to help pay for that dream.
And if you are a writer, or think you might have a book inside of you – you’ll want to listen to the end where Keenya shares how she supernaturally was able to write, publish, and record the audiobook in a total of just two months time. I still am amazed at the speed of her process. She details her process, and the long list items she had to check off in order to get to the finish line.
>>> If you are an entrepreneur, or have a burning desire to find a new passion for business in these empty nest years, I’d like to invite you to join us in The Empire Builders Collective, where we clear away the fog from marketing a business online, and pursue a greater purpose and passion while making an impact. The doors to this exclusive VIP community will open just a few times a year, so make sure you are on the waitlist by signing up here: tamiromani.com/vipwaitlist
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I met my guest, Sheri McIntyre, through the magic of social media. She reached out to me several months ago via Instagram messenger, and my life has not been the same since.
Sheri was in the best shape of her life – and (she thought) the best health of her life when the unthinkable happened – a sudden rupture of a brain aneurysm left her helpless on New Years Day, 2016. Helpless, yes. Hopeless, no. Something inside Sheri rose up with strength and fortitude and she was determined to do whatever it takes to get better. She slowly learned how to walk and talk again – and now, not even four years from that day – she has written a book.
I hope you will be inspired by Sheri’s story. She reminds us all to have hope in the darkest of times, and to always look for the light, and then work hard to keep reaching for it. Above all, Sheri would like everyone who hears her story to THINK.
Here are some resources we mentioned in this interview:
Hi Empire Builders! I am really happy that my first episode after the introductions we’ve been doing is this one about being healthy enough. I’ve noticed a tendency to have an all or nothing mentality in this area. Every time we open a magazine or turn on the TV we are bombarded with images of others we would like to emulate, but really – it’s unattainable for most of us. So what do we do? We do nothing.
My guest today is going to teach you a better way. A way to be healthy enough – for you. Amy Van Liew spent 26 years as an engineer for HP, and when she took early retirement at age 50, she knew she needed to improve her health. All those years of corporate sitting had taken a toll. So, she educated herself and now is helping midlifers find the balance they need to be healthy enough. Healthy enough to enjoy life on their terms. I hope this episode sparks some ideas for changes you can make to be your healthiest self.
Here are some of the resources we referenced in this interview:
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